Meaning me. Not just that, sexually as well. This all happended 1 1/2yrs back.. From that day on, several times we discussed this. They tell each other they make each other better people. He just recently finally started being productive at home again, picking up where he left off over a year ago on unfinished started projects. I was heart broken. Ive held up my end and have been a loving girlfriend but Im not getting much back, but am also afraid of being alone. Honestly this lockdown really changed my relationship! He is struggling to find work as well. I dont want to push, I do want to give him space, but too much of that then leaves me feeling like I am not showing him my standards so then why should he value me. Writing can help you discover if youre expecting too much, or if your boyfriend stopped making an effort because your relationship doesnt mean much to him. 7 years this month, no anniversary, didnt even notice actually. And boom..you would be able to leave him to be single and be open for someone whod treat you just the way you deserve. We have been together for almost a year. I love my partner but I just feel like Im too smothering to him, I thought this was how you ought to be in a relationship. Not in an highly expected way but just generally happy and loving! He compromised but I guess his old self is back .Ive not heard from him today as well.I would understand if he was unwell,Id appreciate it if he could atleast send me even a short message so I wouldnt get so worried. I told him about how I felt scared I looked too nerdy in my full protection hear and helmet and everyone else wasnt wearing any. Everything now has become a tit-for-tat pissing match competition for control and autonomy. Literally so many times. But I cant help but read it as a lack of interest, it makes me feel horrible on dates and sends me in a spiral of panic that he is bored of me. I feel like my house is just a hotel and he pays his family for meals but doesnt give me a dime. I had sent him links to little trinkets and gifts. ! And then what we talked about was not set in stone and that things change. Recently life has been on the up and positive but I feel our relationship hasnt grown or been a focus. Okay it became a longer answer than I expected! Yet around the holidays, he has completely dropped off the radar and is barely giving me more than a one word text response back. what is the project you have to work on together . Till then, you should be determined not to commit to anything or anyone. He does spend time with us and financially he is very supportive which Im great full for. Im still in high school. I dont know if anyone has experienced this before? Communication is not good. Me and my partner have been together 5 years. I MEAN EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN LIFE BUT I WOULD INSIST ON HIM CHANGING THE DRINKING NOW OR LATER YOU COULD BE LIVING MY LIFE. He regularly bought me presents and he showered me with compliments. Maybe he will brush his teeth at lunchtime but often he just smells like armpits and looks like a scruff and then wants to come to our clean bed that way. I just see so many girls that have boyfriends who do so much to keep them happy, it just feels like my boyfriend stopped trying. My fiance and I have been together for a year.. when we first got together he was so happy and kind to me.. but then there was all this stuff from his job getting him stressed out ..and bills, and family, and Im not sure what else..his last job he had a manager that spoke so poorly towards him and the other employees plus the customers. This has all happened within the last 3 months. I just dont know if Im asking for too much or if hes just making up excuses. Now that we have a son and Im not as fit as I used to be what does he think of me now? NO AFFECTION. But he feels that I would have a better chance getting a job were he lives then him getting a Job where I live but thats not the point. I have to fix myself and thats the problem with people now adays. Not to mention, our second date was going to look at a puppy he was looking at after meeting my dog. Today I found out that hes planning a trip to Rhode Island to hang out with his cohort in May and has even already booked the hotel yet hes not said a word to me. Im not sure where you landed with your relationship, but I hope things are better for you. I feel very angry that his being occupied with school took him away from me and suffocated what little was left of an already struggling relationship. No texting. I thought hed at least try to make a plan. Its always laying on the couch watching TV. I want to give myself time to breath but when I do, again I feel lazy and like Im doing nothing with my life. For a while there I was wondering if he was a narcissist, player or just using me. Its sad when other give you the compliments that you are looking from in one person. Im sorry, and I know it can be a really hard thing to do, but you need to leave. We used to work on projects together, go for walks, and he barely even grooms now. After I voiced my frustration, he said hes been busy with trying to get a promotion at work and on his free time he spends it with his son. I know how hard it is to let go, but you can do it. I love my boyfriend so much, weve been together for a year now. Keep in mind, he does suffer from depression here and there where he has no energy at times and finds no pleasure in anything. I know it sounds like Im materialistic but Im not, I just want effort. And even now he knows that there are small things he has done to make me feel loved and special (eg my name on his ig bio without me asking) and Ive made it so so clear that these small things make so so happy, but I just noticed that he removed my name from his bio yesterday and it breaks my heart because thats the one thing he has done that reminded me he loves me.. its so stupid because its such a small thing but at this point I have been so starved of love that I dont have anything else. My expectations: Be an adult while fighting. Can anyone help me and give me some advice? I was told by my therapist that I could be the one to plan the date myself and ask him out and even though I completely agree with her on that, I cant help feel now that if I were to do that and ask him on a date that he will think that he doesnt ever have to put in the effort of planning something, anything, and that if he waits long enough I will plan it for us so he doesnt have to. I cook everyday, wash his clothes, iron them do all the housework and look after the kids. When i pull back abit, i notice it is when he makes an effort. The three emotions you suggested we wrote down mine were: Last on the priorities, unloved, lonely/lost. He nolonger would make as much effort, like call or text to check on me. but again i was stupid and foolish.. i was so considerate to him that i believed that things will be different this time. I dont think my boyfriend knows how to deal with someone like me. This person flakes when we have plans even after I said that Im not here for that. He only got me a childrens bear . I used to take accountability for the frequent fights once they started. He doesnt do the things he used to do. My bf has been acting distance from me lately. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. you can still offer him emotional support (from a distance) if he needs itgood luck, xoxo. I just dont feel like he loves me , why am I with him & what is he not getting ? Hi My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and weve lived together for 3.5 of those years. Haha. Nothing cleaned up, ingredients still on the counter, and not one thing made for me to eat.. and even better, after letting me in the door, not a how was work. good luck to you. HE ACTED LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED. I asked why the sudden change? I love my boyfriend very much but he is so difficult to understand in the morning you will text with much love and in the evening he will tell you I dont know how to love, you deserve someone better who can give you money among others . Tinder is amazing, by the way. If so, you have to trust that your relationship can handle this temporary lull in affection and attention. I have been with my boyfriend for one and a half years. I feel like the future that I saw with him will not be possible anymore. Things you never even thought of knowing. He tells me constantly how much he loves me.. Ugh. I would put makeup on and wait hours for him to finish his video games, only for him to tell me hes sorry he got caught up, but hes tired and doesnt have time. Forget it. I may be demanding at times but I definitely know I deserve more than the effort hes willing to put in. I just requested patience. Weve been dating a little over a year. And mind you the beginning of relationship we always traveled and did things together. I dont understand why he wouldnt make you diner when you took out all the ingredients. If, say, youre a non-stop talker, you frequently talk over your partner, tend to interrupt, and just aren't a good listener, they'll stop sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings because they don't feel "heard." Be objective: how well do you know your boyfriend? But I just feel unwanted and that all I do for him is in vain. Theres always a chance that this will trigger self-reflection, and he will crawl back, and you can decide whether to give a second chance. I am very confused and angry at myself because I know he wasnt like that in his previous relationship endeavors. He has not made me do any of this. But he tells me that he wants to get married even im being a total b*tch. I ask him what was his intention of saying it and give him the space to nagivate the answer by himself. LOVE IS AWESOME BUT GUESS WHAT HERE I AM 8 YEARS LATER AND HE STILL DOESNT CLEAN , STILL DRINKS. I dont know what to do. I love him and i plan on marrying him but i dont know how to fix the lack of effort without fighting like we always do when i ask him to put in more effort. He said its okay I dont judge you and Im sure no one does and if they do they can go fuck themselves! You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. my bf and i are long distance. Ive been with my bf for a year & half but we have past history. If the boyfriend didnt do that and kept saying he did nothing wrong, maybe it is time you find someone who can truly respect the beautiful soul you are. I am the first gf my bf ever had and theres only so much I can pin on that reason. This past week, I got strep throat and was miserable, so I didnt do anything, and since I got antibiotics, Ive been feeling better, but Im debating on doing anything to show him how much I do and how little he does. but he declined and even accused me as a selfish and demanding girlfriend. Find the courage to leave him! Maybe not right now but sooner than 5 years from now, of that I am certain. You arent asking for too much. He had PTSD, bi polar disorder and anxiety. I buy him presents, I shower him with so much love. hi so ive been with my bf for 4 years and at first ofc it was all great but after 2 years he jst stopped putting in effort and when i ask him to, he makes it seems like its such a chore. Is your boyfriend an emotionally unavailable man? He said I did agree to go to the park this weekend. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. Hi im kushi, 25yrs old.. My boyfriend and I have been in our relationship for 3yrs now.. Just because he misses a few phone calls or texts doesn't mean he is ignoring you." Its about dealing with regret, coping with guilt, and healing shame. David & I had a wonderful relationship, but then I noticed a change in him. even on weekends, hes always busy. But have to understand yourself mentality first because if not you will lose yourself in the process. He forgave me and I eventually moved back. He spends hours playing videogames and if I want us to go to bed together I always have to be waiting for him till 4 in the morning even when I have classes at 9, and when I wanna go to bed earlier I cant even sleep because of the noise and flashing lights of the videogame. Around my birthday time I started to notice that his effort was there mentally and physically. Feel like I am too grown for him. I just feel stupid and I kinda want to give up on him. I do far too many things for him. It was pretty obvious I didnt know how to skate haha but everyone around me did and were doing tricks. This guy never learned to be a good partner, and it sounds like he doesnt know how to try now, either. So I stopped doing that and now treat him like just a friend. Your email address will not be published. he briefly mentioned his bad experience with exes, he had two years marriage and he said he felt it was too long. Maybe hes too heavy into the party, drugs, and alcohol scene. For example, his car broke down in a town more then an hour away. 2 years ago, something was off in our relationship and he wasnt making effort with me, almost at all. And also i didnt want to behave with him like that.but i loved him so much and i did every thing i can di for him. But after reading the article I realize that Ive just been complaining but I have never taken out the time to ask him, what a healthy happy relationship looks like to him, what his definition of effort is, or what kind of life does he want us to live, with me planning everything for us or what he wants. Does not show any effort at all, but claims to love me so much. Honestly he may need some space. This past year has been a struggle, and I dont know what it means. He says he works so hard for me or us so we can have the things we want in life and Im so grateful but money isnt everything. I have told him many times that he doesnt care about me, and he always says that he loves me. Personally, I feel rejected when he doesnt make an effort.. Then I get a text at 10 pm! Also He text slow and we converse only when we have some argument. Ive even used different approaches, including positive reinforcement. Clearly I am not a priority and I deserve better so I think it is time to move on. Men just are good at keeping it closed up. It can make you feel insecure like theres something wrong with you. https://www.bonobology.com/husband-does-not-give-me-attention I saw him once more and he taught me my first trick. Hey babe! I have told him that I will be losing a lot when I move career wise. Hes very sweet and affectionate, so I dont believe its due to him not liking me anymore, but it really confuses me and stresses me out. If your boyfriend or others say that youre expecting too much, read 11 Ways to Stop Being the Clingy Girlfriend in a Relationship. I dont want to talk about marriage or kids or the future. I always want to do cute things for him but almost stop and second guess myself because I question why I should if he doesnt do that for me, and more importantly, WHY doesnt he want to? due to time zones, im three hours ahead of him. One of the best things to do when youre confused about your relationship is to pull back and try to see yourself and your boyfriend more objectively. I love him dearly, but no lie Im confused & I dont like feeling confused. After being ignored all week he told me he was going on a boys trip, except he failed to mention he was already on the road out of town. Hes never really posted pictures of us on social media and hes been very non intimate. I absolutely abhor talking to anyone ever. Ive thought of letting him go because hes not what I want in a relationship, but hes the only one in this world that knows every single thing thats been in my head. He told me he loved me within weeks of us meeting. I dont know, I hope someone out there can relate or help with how I feel. We dont laugh as much as we used too. He started withdrawing from me after I asked him 2-3 times to hang out and do things with me. Its been an extremely rocky relationship but has the tendency to resolve itself. Do I move the goal post so he can succeed? He may not be the person for you. He loves Instagram and has a fitness page, and is constantly posting pics on it and putting up stories of his everyday life. One day he suddenly started to show interest and after a couple of months we started dating becaus I have always kinda liked him. Both Christmases weve been together hes given me money with the excuse that he doesnt have time to shop. I asked him to help me move to where he lives the first 2 times he said yes quickly.. ive already told him my feelings about this often. I would appreciate any advice! Like by shouting Im gonna get scared or intimated. He replied: about what? He dismisses your emotions. Whereas if I was in his situation I would just leave (not during the lockdown). I truely love him i said i ll forgive. COMPROMISE but just be sure its not all on your side. We went on a trip. You deserve so much more. they say love is sweeter than the second time arounnd, probably to some but not on me l met my boyfriebd wayback in highschool .. Im so gullible that time that I gave him everything I had. Which I know I do and Ive thought about sooooo much, but my problem is is that I actually cant imagine my life without him, hes been in it so deeply since we were 13/14 and I love him so much. I got furious.He did this pretty often in the past but I used to tell him how I didnt like his sudden occasions of disappearing without a word cause it makes me worried. The key is to not give them the key to our happiness. I just want to have a nice time, an interesting conversation. On a scale of 1 to 10, would you rate your relationship a 1 (you started dating within the last couple of months and are still in the beginning phases of getting to know each other) or a 10 (youve been dating for 20 years and know each other inside and out)? Weve been arguing a lot because I just feel unappreciated, I just want flowers & thoughtfulness like I do for him. I realize ,Im no cup of tea at times either but I never lied, cheated or left him in the dark .I feel incredibly cheated by the amount of time I spent culturing and cultivating a better life for him so that he may go impress someone else because of what I had endured dealing with his crumbs of affection why is it with men its all up your ass or nothing at all where is the balanced gentleman I so crave ? Need. Every time I ask, he gets upset, and starts an argument, so why do I bother? Advice please? Do I deserve this? I have tried to express my feelings over and over, but I still get nothing. He texts me that his out with his friends and hes drunk. He told me he still wanted me and he loved me so i started talking to him again but things still felt weird. He also doesnt seem as interested in what I have to say anymore. I dont know if I am being unreasonable. You deserve to be treated well and loved the way you want to be loved. Write in your journal or diary, or share in the comments section below. But If they are not- I think you have to consider moving on. I dont know what he wants from me. on the same note, say for example he does or says something that hurts my feelings or upsets me a great deal, not only does he refuse to apologize, but he doesnt make any attempt to correct the situation. Im the beginning, it was easy. We were living together but decided to try living apart since we jumped into the relationship. So accept that it will be hard, cry about it for a week or two and try to move on with your life and realize that you deserved so much better then that pos. So I stated being more involved in his hubbies then usual and listening. I wasnt allowed to talk to my bf but i did anyways like every night but i couldnt talk on zoom or ppl would hear me. This weekend I went to my sisters house and watched a ball game and the next day went to a movie with a friend. Try to be better. Hes an atheist, and slowly his mocking of God and Christianity began to affect my own believes. He studies in a university and was about to graduate when the lockdown began. It breaks my heart not talking to him and hearing about his day but I know this was for the best. Now, he doesnt put effort. He is highly smart so I am not going to spell it out for him. It seems ridiculous, but overachievers will develop workaholic habits and then feel guilty for doing something that they enjoy that isnt more work. My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up recently, but within a few days, he decided he wanted to get back together to work things out. Just stop allowing that guy to keep thrusting a dagger in your heart. She saw me with his hat and questioned me and i told her i got it from my best friend and she knew i was lying but didnt care. This sucks. Are circumstances in your boyfriends life affecting how he relates to you and others? Right now I want to clear things out and make this the last time we talk about this, because in the last month I told him many times that I felt like he made no time for me and was making more effort to spend time with his friends than with me, and he doesnt even answers my texts. After you write down your expectations of your boyfriend, ask yourself if theyre realistic. If youre not walking out the door, you are telling him that his behavior is acceptable. Xx. Do you feel loved? He sounds willing to work on your relationship, be thankful for that. He Then, at least FaceTime? He now expects this but does not reciprocate. Maybe you feel grateful when your boyfriend finally decides to stop by at 10 pm, without calling first. I cut out all those smiley-faced emoticons he avoided and texted one-word answers sometimes, just like he would. and he would say yeah we should, and then nothing. If anything is like now hes got this new job hes checked out and wants a new life. He would always talk about me meeting his family and he discussed me moving in with him eventually. Either way I have decided to just sit back and live my life. He doesnt call me much. If he wants to make an effort to come visit you a few times you can see hes pulling his weight. Its confusing because he takes care of me by buying me food and we hangout all the time but theres 0 affection. Later on our conversation is dead Im always the one who make efforts. What do I talk about with my girlfriend? Soon realizing i wasnt going to come back to where i met him i tried to break it off. Dont know full dets but I know you deserve to be happy. Writing down your expectations will not only help you gain clarity and insight into yourself, itll also help you see if you need to change what you expect of your boyfriend. Im 55, I decided I can not live another minute in an unstable relationship. Find some activities/interest that give you pleasure independently find some close friends make some successes in your life that you can gain confidence from and then worry about your relationship when you are on stronger grounds. he says he wants to break off because he is busy in his work and stuff. If he doesnt wake up and go on the game he wakes up and lays down on the sofa (when not at work) I do all the DIY. but i told him nah! He brought me back the same time as last time. I get Fridays and the weekend which I use to do an my studying, school work, exercise, self care, etc. I kept on wishing the man I met at the beginning of the relationship would show up but he never did. okay so how i try to avoid causing a scene over tht is i would comeover to his place, thts the only place he would be fine because if i ask him to meet me at my area or anywhr else he wouldnt want to. This leaves us hanging on in hopes they will be that guy again. I tried to tell him how rude that was and he didnt understand where I was coming from and proceeded to tell me I was making a big deal about it. Thank you Sumiah, for your response and your concern. While he was living with his mom he got a job and was so focused on that..he didnt talk to me as much anymore. Then, youll know what to do when your boyfriend makes no effort in your relationship. I love drinking with him and having a laugh but he doesnt seem to feel the same. He doesnt ask about my life and hes still working with his ex wife in a business relationship. My boyfriend and me zoomed and emailed and he moved from job to job. He said he was seeking for personal growth and happiness. He blames his lack of functioning on his religious faith. should i stay or let go? I dont want to beg for it, it should come naturally I feel. Hes just too self-absorbed. I was sad I didnt ask for any of his contact info so I only had his name. But we should start taking care of ourselves more. The next year we talked again. I didnt even realise I was expecting the bare minimum until it hit me while I was laying in bed after he hadnt messaged me all day because he was busy playing his game. That he put them in their box where he can find them easily when hes getting dressed in the morning and didnt remember where. Instead of wishing things were different, practice accepting the fact that you cant change your boyfriend or make him want to spend time with you. Damn this just made me cry because this is exactly what Im going through rn. Then, youll have the wisdom and guidance you need. I question why after knowing what he knows, he wont even try to talk to me. Losing the Hes making a shit ton of money now and its (seems to be) working out well so Id have thought his aside, mood, all that Stress effecting his energy and sex drive .. Would have gotten better. Even on weekends hes working and most days he cant even have dinner at home with me bc his other entrepreneur jobs are calling. But I decided to tell my bf what makes me happy. any improvement? He needs a chill pill and a real wake up call and renewed investment in life vs his career. Coz I know he loves me but I dont know what gets over him all of a sudden. Unless he drank to much then he was argumentative and yucky. Am I a horrible girlfriend for feeling this way? I decided to pull back and just sit and watch. Next day he texted me telling me I looked cute etc. Im right there with you though, I feel the same way about my bf of 2 years. I get so exhausted and mad that I says things hurtful accidentally such as you do nothing around here! Even if I am not complaining he immediately jumps down my throat that something I am pointing out is a complaint. Stay fabulous sis!? You won't drive him crazy, you'll push him away and for good. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. That being said, Ive grown up a lot in during our relationship which is my first and it means a lot to me and i will definitely regret our breakup. He didnt court me. Dont turn a blind eye on things that are sign showing and you are not happy for them. Ive tried to initiate intimacy and have been rejected because hes tired. Hed say something really mean, watch my cry and if I asked to talk about it, Hed tell me why do we have to always talk about it or why cant you just drop it and not bring it up my favorite was Im not apologizing because Im not sorry, you just like making a big deal over nothing one time I asked about marriage (he took me to the red wood Forrest and asked me to marry him 2 years prior to this comment) he told me hed never marry a b**ch. However, somewhere after the 4-5 month mark, he got another job and started working two jobs. Youre boyfriend seems like a catfish. But Im not certain its not because he now wants to hurry to get the house finished and sell it while the market is hot. At the beginning, I was super in love with him and I would put in so much effort. She threatened to send my bf to jail idk how tho. Im hoping this isnt becoming a pattern. I am feeling, like my expectations may be too high. And i couldnt forget it. Sometimes even i dont get it,If im asking for too much. 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